I do not respect a fellow team member

1. “Do you not respect the person because you disagree with their views? If so, you need to respect the opinions and perspectives of all team members.”
2. “It depends on why but don’t be judgmental. None of us are perfect!”
3. “Be a mature, respectful adult and speak directly with the person about your concerns. Maybe something got miscommunicated or not communicated, or you misinterpreted something. If you just jump to the conclusion that your teammate is an idiot then you’re the one being an idiot.”
4. “Yes, this can happen but we rarely get to choose our team members. How can you work more effectively with them? Find something that you can respect about them, maybe it is there their taste if coffee! One of the important characteristics of successful leaders and business team members is the ability to be effective with many different styles. This is a great opportunity for you to develop some new skills.”
5. “Learn to accept people the way they are – and the way they aren’t.”
6. “Even if you don’t respect the person for some reason, it doesn’t let you off the hook of behaving respectfully toward them. You may not be able to control their behavior or attitude but you can control your own. Always be professional and the best team member you can.”
7. “Find some common ground that you can agree on. I was faced with this situation and I was put on a team with two people who were totally different than me. We found one common thing we could agree on and moved on from there. We actually ended up liking each other and working together very well.”
8. “The most important thing is to try to see things from their perspective.”
9. “I don’t think that most people purposely are jerks. If the person is doing something that bothers you, have a conversation with them. They probably don’t even know they are even doing it.”
10. “Speak with the person and focus on the facts and how they are impact you. Don’t accuse the person of having a bad attitude or even of being disrespectful.”
11. “I find that just getting to know the other person can be really effective. Ask the person out for a drink. Try to have a good time with them. A lot of differences have been resolved over a beer!”
12. “If you’re the team leader and know that two people don’t respect one another make them work together on a project so they get to know one another and have to rely on each other to succeed.”
13. “The idea that you are always going to respect everyone is not reality. Guess what, not everyone is going to like you either. Grow up and deal with it.”
14. “Maybe you don’t respect the person because you are actually intimidated by them and their skills. Maybe you are insecure and jealous of the other person. Take a hard look in the mirror!”
15. “Do other team members feel the same way? If not, it sounds like it is a personal issue and you should speak candidly with the person. The friction between the two of you is not healthy for the rest of your team.”
16. “If you don’t respect someone because they are not doing their job, there are lots of reasons for that. Maybe they don’t have the training they need, or they aren’t even clear as to what they are supposed to be doing. Don’t assume that your team member is lazy. See if you can help them.”
17. “If a team member ever starts speaking disrespectfully about another team member you need to shut that conversation down. Team members need to talk to one another and not behind their backs.”
18. “If you don’t respect them, they probably don’t respect you. Someone has to be willing to extend the olive branch. Be mature and start treating the other person with respect – it is amazing how often this will cause the other person to start acting respectfully toward you.”
19. “If the person tries to understand the other team member they may come to realize that everyone is different and there is a reason why the person is different and that may be the cause of the disrespect.”
20. “You need to set personal differences aside for the sake of the team. The unity of the team ensures the strength of the team, and strength should build respect.”