I do not respect my team leader

1. “People often don’t respect the leader because they really don’t understand the world in which the leader functions. They Monday morning quarter back every decision the leader makes. Getting to know your leader and all he has on his plate will help you to respect him or her. Be more empathetic.”
2. “Was there a single incident that led you to feel this way? We all have our bad days, if it just happened once let it go.”
3. “Very rarely are you going to get an awesome boss that gels well with everyone on your team. Unless your team leader is putting your team in jeopardy of missing a critical deadline or is blatantly making someone uncomfortable, I’d say just keep your head down, do your part, and keep your opinions to yourself. You don’t have to respect someone to make sure that you can all play nicely enough together to get something done. You just have to put your feelings aside for the good of the team and do whatever you need to do as a member of your team.”
4. “Be very clear why you don’t respect him. Did he raise his voice to another team member? Did he lie? Did he screw something up? Once you’ve identified the behavior have an honest conversation and state what you observed and express your concerns. Don’t jump to any conclusions – just seek to get his perspective.”
5. “Most of the time we lose respect for someone it is because of something they did or said. A lot of times we pass judgment without making sure we have all the facts. You should reserve judgment until you know the full story.”
6. “If you don’t respect your boss for some decision he made you could say something such as: “I’m having a hard time understanding why you want me to keep doing things this way when we’re not getting the results we want. Can you explain it to me?” Remain open-minded. Maybe he made the decision without having all the facts and you can help educate him and change his decision.”
7. “Unless your team leader consistently mistreats people or is totally incompetent, you should respect what he does well and figure out ways to support his weaknesses. You are both on the same team and trying to do the best you can.”
8. “Take the time to get to know your team leader better. Focus on what you appreciate about him.”
9. “Put your head down and do your job. And don’t trash talk the team leader behind his back – that is REALLY disrespectful.”
10. “If he did something that really bothered you it is your responsibility to talk to him. It is really unhealthy to keep something like that inside you – it tends to get you more and more resentful over time. Be diplomatic, e.g., “Something happened that has been bothering me and I’d really like to get it off my chest.” Don’t attack him – just focus on what happened and how it made you feel.”
11. “Don’t play the victim. If he or she did something that you feel was wrong, speak up!”
12. “I would look for other mentors in the organization. Is there another leader in the organization who can support your growth and development?”
13. “If you don’t respect your team leader, you should focus your attention on your own goals and what you want to get out of your job. You can try to get on different project teams that would limit interactions with your boss and give you exposure to another team leader who you do respect. Also you can focus your attention on helping out your fellow team members.”
14. “Why don’t you respect about him/her? Be alert to the fact that you might be jealous of the power or money associated with their position. Take a look in the mirror and be honest with yourself – maybe it’s your problem.”
15. “Just because you don’t respect someone doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t show them respect. Fake it until you make it.”
16. “Is your loss of respect over something that happened outside of work? If so, it should stay outside of work. You should still respect him professionally.”
17. “Have the courage to ask to speak to the individual and let them know that you don’t appreciate their behavior.”
18. “Make his life easier. Do something he needs. Make him value you.”
19. “You’ve made the decision to not respect your boss and it probably causes you some frustration, upset, or anger. It may sound simple but you can make the decision to reframe your thinking. For example, you could just say that you disagree with a specific decision he makes. If you change your words and thinking you may find that it makes your life easier.”
20. “Are being fair to the leader and not just going along with the crowd opinion?”
21. “Most team leaders have worked hard to earn that position and you should respect what they have done in your organization.”
22. “Grin and bear it.”
23. “Imagine yourself in that role. Team leaders are often much more stress than team members.”